Building A Shield Around Your Marriage

shield marriage rings

Do not . . . do not allow the enemy to come in to steal and destroy the destiny that has been spoken over your marriage. Especially, couples that strongly believe that their marriage is called of God that it was not something by chance.

Even just a moment of doubt can bring an avalanche of division. The enemy will use anyone to speak against you and your spouse just so that there is a foot in the door of the House that God has set into place.

Family members (parents, siblings, grandparents, cousins), close friends, and even co-workers are usually the first to speak ill of your relationship.

Marriage is not easy nor is it comfortable. The Word of God says it is better, to remain single than to get married ONLY because it is two individuals learning how to become one.

Becoming one unit is an unconditional unselfish way of living. It is not easy.

To be honest . . . if you are not up for the tests, the obstacles that make you change and to let go, the journey that builds your character, the ditches that teach what true love and commitment is, the warfare . . .

The ‘tough mudder’ of marriage than you need to pray and pray hard!

I did not say ‘get out’ I said PRAY! 

Ask God to show you what you need to change, what you need to let go, how to walk in forgiveness, and how to live unselfishly. Also, ask God to show how to understand how your spouse receives love. Each individual is different in his or her love process of receiving and giving. Speak their language. Don’t give up! If something does not work the first time . . . you did not fail you just learned that was the wrong way in doing. Try again and keep loving and praying!


The only way you and your spouse will make it is through prayer, through dying to selfishness, through living sacrificially, and through continually walking in forgiveness to EVERYTHING (lies, addictions, betrayal, selfishness, sickness, poverty, etc.). Giving of yourself daily.

Nothing can escape the cleansing of a forgiving soul. 

Therefore, I want to end with these words of experienced wisdom . . .

To shut the mouth of the enemy and of those who believe that they are doing ‘right’ – Shut your mouth!

  • Only use your voice to pray over your marriage, to speak life, and to speak healing.
  • Ask God to show you who is speaking against your marriage, who to not talk to about your struggles.
  • Ask God to show you who you can trust that are not family, friends, etc., or those who you know would not be bias.
  • Ask those intercessors that God has placed in your life that are strong in Him, that do not know anything of what is going on presently, to PRAY.
  • Be accountable to someone who is again not family or too close to the situation to talk to and have them pray God’s will over your marriage.
  • Do not choose those who are struggling in their own marriage or those who are single. Chose those who are for your marriage, do not chose those who are against it or those that walk in jealousy.
  • Speak scripture over your marriage.
  • Declare those prophetic words that have been spoken over you, your spouse, and your children.
  • Stand firm and trust that God’s work is not done in you yet.
  • Pray for the mouth of the enemy to be shut.
  • For those who are speaking against your marriage, pray that God will shut their mouth and dry up their desire to want to ‘help’.

God will give you wisdom. He will give you strength and He will give you the tools you need to win the fight! You and your spouse are not enemies. You are on the same team.

 Learn to walk in forgiveness, keep your mouth shut from speaking against your marriage, and PRAY! 

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The Brake 5 staff and Jennifer continually hold times of prayer for those who have sent in their requests every Saturday. To submit a prayer request click here.

Counseling Sessions and mentorship programs are free and offered by appointments only. If you are interested in obtaining counseling or joining a mentorship program with Jennifer please send an email to

Speak Out Loud! A Challenge for 2015

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The Vine ~ Brake 5’s Weekly Devotional
Speak Out Loud! A Challenge for 2015

Our God is ever constant in an ever-changing world. He is faithful, just, righteous, and holds all power in His hands. There is no limit to His power, His strength, and His wonders. We cannot place a full understanding of Him, because His vastness knows no bounds. Therefore, we cannot always understand His ways of how He answers our prayers or does not answer. We cannot fully know all that He has planned for us. For if we knew, all that He knows, we would come to our end and we would have no purpose for Him or for this life.

Prayer is the connector between our heart and His. Through prayer, we are able to commune with Him. Prayer allows us the ability to come to our Father’s throne and lay all our petitions, our burdens, and our thoughts before His feet. Prayer is the foundational bond between God and us. Prayer creates a powerful covenant between God and us. Without prayer, our relationship with Him will wither.

An individual who has a strong covenant with God walks in a confidence and authority in such a way that when they pray there is not a trace of doubt, but their prayers are filled with a tenacious (persistent) faith.
This brings this first newsletter of 2015 to its purpose. Personally, each year I take the first 40 days into a time of fasting, prayer, and daily communion. This year, I have invited many women of Brake 5 to join me.

This is your open invitation to join us:

  • As we ‘detox’ our souls, bodies, and minds; building our relationship with God stronger and going to that next level of growth
  • As we bring our burdens to the feet of Jesus
  • As we bring our petitions before Him for our families & friends, our health, our finances
  • As we pray for our country in which we live (87+ within Brake 5)
  • As we pray for our national and local leaders.

A few others and I began fasting on New Year’s Day. However, many are beginning a fast on January 5 or the following Monday. It does not matter when you begin! Just that you begin! The type of fast and length you choose is between you and God; making sure, it fits within your lifestyle and health. Some girls are fasting 21 days, 40 days, and some can only fast one day a week. It really is up to you. The fasting period ends shortly before our WONDER 2015 conference for those attending I encourage you participate in some form as it will prepare you for our weekend together.

Speak Out Loud!
I believe speaking out loud and declaring the Word of God is vital for change to come within any circumstance. Declaration is speaking with authority the Word of God over a situation and one does not have to yell for a declaration to reach heaven. When we put our faith into action through our voice, it cuts the atmosphere with a two-edged sword. There is power in our tongue that births life or death. The enemy’s plans are revealed, shattered, and God’s anointing power comes into action. Chains are broken, hearts are healed, and lives are forever changed when we choose to speak declaring the Word of the Lord.

Declare God’s Covenantal Blessings over our Families – John Eckhardt

  • The Lord will be with my family (Gen. 31:3)
  • My family will not be cut off from the presence of God (Numbers 4:18)
  • Let there be no root in my family bearing bitterness or wormwood (Deut. 29:18).
  • Let there not be any among my family who will turn their heart from the Lord our God (Deut. 29:18).
  • The seed of my family will be blessed (Acts 3:25)
  • The word of salvation has been sent to my family (Acts 13:26)
  • The Lord will send angels to accompany my family (Gen. 24:40)
  • The Lord will prosper my family’s way (Gen. 24:40)
  • The Lord will be God over my family, and we will be His people (Jer. 24:7)
  • My family will give glory and strength to the Lord (1 Chron. 16:28)
  • My family hears the word of the Lord (Jer. 2:4)
  • The blessings of the Lord are upon the households in my family (1 Chron. 13:14)
  • My family worships before the Lord (Ps. 22:27)

To read more of this week’s newsletter click here.

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Lives Changed & Friendships Strengthened!

I encourage all to watch this less than 2 minute clip about what Brake 5 conferences are all about!  Thank you Wendy Eberhardt for creating and sharing this walk down memory lane and invitation to WONDER 2015!

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No Time To Waste!

Brake 5's WONDER 2015 Women's Conference  February 27, 28, & March 1st

Brake 5’s WONDER 2015 Women’s Conference
February 27, 28, & March 1st

No matter where you live WONDER 2015 is a weekend you don’t want to miss with your girlfriends & other women from around the world. A great weekend to getaway from it all at the beautiful Lake-Placid Conference-Center. Where we will brake & refuel, spend time in God’s presence, & time with the girls making new lifetime friendships! We have about 40 slots open for those who wish to stay overnight ($195 hotel, meals, conference) for those local guests ($150 meals, conference) space is unlimited ;) All that is needed to HOLD your slot is $30 this locks in your spot whether lodging overnight with us or if you are local & doing the onsite package. Installment plans are available to pay on your registration between now & Feb. 20th. Don’t miss this great opportunity to hear Richard Mull, Penny Hopper, & Jennifer Goodson along with Brake 5’s amazing Core Team. Visit WONDER 2015’s website to read about the BRAKE-out session topics & get to know our guest speakers & core team.
Make sure to share this event with all your girlfriends.
Plan now to obtain the best flight rates ;)

Soften Our Hearts . . .

hard-heartRelationships come and go . . .. We’ve heard this said so many times and there is truth in it. However, how many of those relationships were ended because our flesh was offended in a way that brought in a wall of unforgiveness?

Being a human is tough enough, being a woman seems to be even more so. Nevertheless, for God to ask us to walk in love towards another person who has wronged us . . .
How many questions have we listed on our ‘secret notepad’ to ask God in heaven?

We toss relationships so easily in a minimal way in the words of ‘what doesn’t kill me makes me stronger’? To be honest, strength is a good God characteristic; but when not balanced with the love of God we lose our gentleness towards others killing our reflection of Christ. The question then rises . . . How tough do we want to be; tough enough that we miss God’s leading in areas that exemplify His love.

Yes, there are those relationships God does direct us to end because they are unhealthy. Then there are those relationships that we need strong Godly boundaries in order that God’s hand can be in the midst. However, how many relationships did we deny, shove out of the way, cut off with a sliver blade in the name of God when in fact it was our offense, our fear, our past hurts that caused us to walk away and in some cases run.

There is a fine line in knowing
which relationships are God given gifts;
which ones are God assignments;
which ones are God given to strengthen us.

As women, we tend to run our lives by emotions if we are not living in the spirit of God. This causes us to compare, judge, accuse, and make assumptions of others. Why do we do this . . . because we are a vessel that lives in a spiritual and natural world that ultimately is directed orchestrated by our choices – our responses.

When we are living in the spirit, (our goal), we make Godly choices producing Godly responses that lead to Godly relationships. Likewise, when we are living out of our flesh, (our emotions), we allow our choices and responses to lead us into areas of fear and doubt which in turn opens the door for offense. In some cases leading us to isolation or areas of control and manipulation.

It is not easy living by the spirit, because we constantly are living in a flesh-by-flesh molded world that needs God’s mercy and grace 24/7. So, how we do stay in communion with the spirit of God His love towards others? By guarding our hearts, digging deep into His word, and asking the Holy Spirit to walk with us each day. By keeping in pace with the Holy Spirit, we are able to hear with clarity the voice of our Father. Each stride brings us closer to hear His heart beat for others, especially towards those that God sets in our path of destiny.

How do we rid ourselves of offense and forgive those we feel have wronged us?

Sometimes being a woman of God, living in the spirit means we have to lay down our pride (fear, hurt, mistrust) at the throne of our Father. In that we are saying that, we chose to forgive. Even though we may feel we are justified, that we have every right to hold on to that wrong against us . . . Especially, when we do not feel we’ve done anything wrong. We still need to forgive. Why?

When Christ died on the cross, He took on all sin, even ours. When we hold onto something that we feel is another’s sin, we form an offense that holds us in bondage and does not allow us to walk in the freedom Christ bore for us. We are saying, “I want to do the job on the cross because I will feel justified; because it makes me feel powerful in my hurt and anger, because it has made me stronger; because I have the right to be right.”
In reality, the only thing it has made us is weaker, a dull sword, and wounded . . .
broken and carrying a harden heart.

Soften our Hearts, Oh God!

When we walk in the complete love of God towards another person –unconditional love – we are, allowing Christ to step in bring healing and resolution to areas that we have no control over within our own lives and that of the other person. God’s love at work in us is evident when we are able to look past the wrong, the hurt and forgive. As we forgive, we allow freedom to reign over lives and we are able to reach out with the love of Christ in a way that our thoughts, our words, our actions exemplify love not hate or bitterness . . . or offense. The longer we hold onto the hurt, the offense the longer we hold ourselves in bondage.

I encourage you this week to seek the Lord and ask Him to show you who you hold an offense against. He may show you only one or He may show you many.
No matter the amount or the reasons, seek His face . . .
Seek Him with a heart of repentance for holding a grudge, bitterness, hate . . . offense towards that person
Break the unhealthy soul tie between you and that person
Ask for God’s forgiveness
If you need to ask forgiveness of the other person or tell them you have forgiven them DO IT . . this is your choice as each case is different
Walk in your renewed gift of freedom
Choose upon each day rising that you will walk in the love of God living by the spirit not the flesh
For some this may be a daily routine until you feel released. This is because for some offenses, roots of bitterness have been allowed to set in and a changing of heart and breaking of mindsets are an area of healing that must take place.

Suggested Reading: Ephesians 4:20-32
All Brake 5 Blogs and written works by Jennifer Goodson are Copyright © 2008-2014. All Rights Reserved.
The Brake 5 staff and Jennifer continually hold times of prayer for those who have sent in their requests every Saturday. To submit a prayer request click here.
Counseling Sessions and mentorship programs are free and offered by appointments only. If you are interested in obtaining counseling or joining a mentorship program with Jennifer please send an email to